Watch the video version at my Youtube Channel. I was sitting in therapy when my therapist said something that stopped me cold. She told me my biggest coping mechanism — the one I had never noticed, the one I had never even considered a coping mechanism — was performance. Not alcohol. Not avoidance. Not anger. Performance. Doing. Staying busy. Checking things off a list so I could feel like I was in control. And she was right. Why Am I Always Busy But Still Anxious? If you hav
