Watch a video version on my Youtube Channel. What kind of life are you living? Whose life are you living? I spent the better part of thirty years not living my own. From the outside it looked normal, even good. Grow up, go to school, get a degree, get a job, buy a house, start a family, move into a nice neighborhood. I did the things that felt expected of me, without ever asking who was doing the expecting. That's the part that took me the longest to see. I wasn't just living

Watch the video version at my Youtube Channel. There's a line from a Rebelution song that's been sitting with me: don't you know it's you why you're suffering. Said out of context, that sounds harsh. Said with the right context, it might be the most freeing thing you hear this week. Here's the distinction I want to draw out: pain and suffering are not the same thing. Pain is what happens to you. It's inevitable. It's the skinned knee when you're seven and it's the slow realiz

Watch a video version at my YouTube Channel. There is a perspective shift that changed everything for me. It is not complicated. But if you actually apply it, it will change how you respond to every difficult person and every frustrating situation in your life. You can see everyone and everything around you as a mirror. Why Am I So Easily Frustrated and Angry? If you have ever asked yourself why you feel so easily frustrated or why certain people trigger you so consistently,

Watch a video version at my YouTube Channel. Most of us are carrying an anxiety we cannot fully explain. You wake up and it is already there. You go through your day and it follows you. You ask yourself why do I feel anxious for no reason and come up empty. It is not attached to one specific thing. It is not about a particular relationship or situation. It is just there. Underneath everything. A low grade hum of unease that follows us from room to room and relationship to rel

Picture a piece of land. Not a yard. Not a lot. Land. The kind that existed long before anyone thought to do anything with it. Wild grass. Roots running deep. Soil that has been here longer than memory. No fences. No roads. No names for it yet. Just land.

After I began questioning my faith, it felt like I was becoming one of those lost souls they used to warn me about. But what I thought was lostness was actually something else entirely. There is a difference between being lost and being between identities. Knowing that difference changes everything.